Organization is not a personality trait that kids are born with. It’s a skill! And like any skill, it can be taught, practiced, and improved over time.
The goal is not to raise mini-perfectionists who keep their socks color-coded. It’s to raise capable humans who know how to manage their belongings and their time in a way that works for them.
We regularly get asked how to help kids get (and stay!) organized, so we’ve rounded up our best ideas for developing life-long organizational skills in children of all ages.
1. Start with Systems Kids Can Actually Use
If the system you are developing for teaching your kids to organize only works when YOU are involved, it’s not a system that your kids can maintain. We suggest involving kids in creating the organizing systems in the first place. Let them help choose bins, decide where things should live, and make the labels. The more ownership they have, the more likely they are to follow through.
If you want kids to be able to put things “away” by themselves, everything needs to have an “away.” Every single item (or category of items) needs a home. And we cannot overstate how important it is to label your storage system in a way that makes sense for your age of kids. For example, labels for the youngest kids should use pictures in addition to words so that everyone can easily figure out what goes where.
Make sure the system you design is simple and accessible. Kids need to be able to reach and maneuver bins by themselves. For younger children, use open bins that they can toss toys into without needing to fuss with hard-to-manage lids. Place hooks down low enough for kids to hang up their own jackets, backpacks, robes, and bath towels. And remember—, an organizing system that actually works for your kids might not be perfect or beautiful, and that’s okay.
2. Teach the Process
Telling a kid to “clean your room” is a bit like telling someone to “get organized.” It can be absolutely overwhelming unless they have the ability to break big jobs down into manageable tasks.
Help kids look at a larger project and think through all the steps along the way. For example, for tidying a room, we love the Five Things method. Encourage your kids to:
- Collect all trash/recycling from the room
- Take away all dirty dishes
- Pick up all laundry
- Put away things that have a home
- Deal with the stuff that doesn’t have a home
Developing and teaching your kids organizing processes for cleaning out their backpacks, organizing their desk, or preparing their lunch box can help them build their self-sufficiency skills.
3. Make Routines Work for You
One of the best ways for how to get kids to organize is to help them establish and maintain consistent routines. Children absolutely thrive with clear routines, as routines help kids feel safe, build independence, and reduce power struggles.
Setting up clear morning and evening routines can be so empowering for kids. Establishing norms that everyone in the family follows can help tame the chaos too. For example:
- We always put away one activity before we start the next.
- We always pack lunches and backpacks the night before.
- We spend 5 minutes resetting our bedroom each night.
- Our whole family takes part in a Weekly Reset every Sunday.
We find checklists to be so useful when helping kids think through routines. Work with your kid to write a checklist for dailiy/weekly chores, their bedtime routine, packing their lunch or backpack, or any other predictable event.
You can also establish routines that help kids understand and manage their time. Tracking deadlines, assignments, practices or rehearsals, competitions, and more is such an important skill to master! Depending on their age, a dry-erase weekly or monthly calendar on their wall, a spiral-bound day planner, or Google calendar on their phone can all work well.
The ability to project themselves into their future is an incredible life skill that will benefit them their whole lives. For example, realizing that a Thursday evening event means they’d better start their Friday assignment early can prevent buckets of stress. Some of us grown-ups are still learning to care for our future selves, but the next generation can do better in implementing strategies for organizing their time and task list!
4. Coach, Don’t Control!
This might be our hardest piece of advice. If you value having an organized home, it’s very tempting to step in, take over, and just do it yourself. It’s certainly faster and easier, but it’s not helping in the long run!
Your role is not to be the manager of everyone else’s stuff. It’s to be a coach and a cheerleader. That might look like asking your middle schooler what they need for practice, rather than telling them what they need to bring. It might look like allowing mistakes to happen, because that’s how we learn. We need to let go of the idea that perfection is the only thing worth celebrating and that every kid’s space has to be organized the same way.
Part of this process is regularly clearing out the clutter together since kids outgrow clothes, toys, and interests very quickly. Normalizing the process of saying goodbye to things that no longer serve you can help prevent kid clutter from building up.
Teaching kids to be organized isn’t just about having a less cluttered house … although that is a pretty great benefit! Helping your kids develop organizational skills will help reduce stress and last-minute scrambles, build independence and confidence, and create more time and space for the activities you love to do together.
If your home is feeling a little too chaotic right now, you don’t have to figure it all out on your own. As professional home organizers, the Bees are always here to help create systems that work for your whole family, including your kiddos!


