1 Does This Item Make Me Happy?
If the item you are focusing on makes you smile or brings back a
wonderful memory of someone you love or an adventure that you had, keep
it! Donāt feel pressured to throw away things that are meaningful to
you. As you go through this process, some items will have obvious happy
emotions tied to them: family photos, precious gifts from a loved one,
that perfect sweater. Other items will bring you joy for reasons that
you canāt put into words and that is fine too! To be able to keep an
item, you donāt have to justify why it makes you happyājust feel the
positive emotions and keep it!
But not everything that you think should make you happy actually does
make you happy. The magic of the first key question of the Power Purge
is that it gives you permission to let go of items that you or others
think should make you happy, but donāt. You have the permission to let
go of memorabilia, or old collections, or things you purchased that you
regret. You donāt need to hold on to things just because you feel like
you should. This is your home and you get to choose what is lifting you
up and what is holding you down.
Just because something doesnāt make you happy doesnāt mean you should
necessarily get rid of it! Also, never forget that there is sometimes a
middle ground in these decisions. For example, instead of keeping the
entire 64-piece set of your grandmotherās china, keep a special tea cup
that you will use or put on display as a reminder of her. We keep most
items in our homes not because they make us happy, but because they
serve a function. That brings us to the second key question of the Power
Purge.
2 Is This Item Useful Now or in the Near
Future?
Just like in the first question, if you answer YES to this question,
itās a no-brainer that you should keep it. Itās up to you to decide what
āregularlyā means for you, but our Bees advise that if you are using it
every year, thatās likely enough to warrant keeping. So if you have been
holding on to that fondue pot for that āsomeday fondue partyā for the
past five years, either plan the party or ditch the fondue pot and
borrow one when you get around to planning that party. Keep in mind the
80/20 Rule as you’re simplifying: We only use 20% of our items 80% of
the time.
Things get more complicated when you answer NO to the question āis this
item useful.ā If you are performing the Power Purge on your closet,
thereās a very good chance you will run across clothing that you havenāt
worn in yearsā¦or even decades. If the item doesnāt make you happy (and
especially if it makes you feel a negative emotion like guilt or
regret), and you arenāt using it regularly, now is the right time to let
it go and move on.
Letting go of items that you donāt use regularly (and that you donāt
love) can sometimes be extremely challenging. Getting rid of the item
means admitting to yourself that it was a wasteful purchase in the first
placeāor that you bought it for the wrong reasons. Sometimes, it means
facing the fact that you did not stick with that hobby you bought the
equipment for or that the one dress you are waiting for a chance to wear
may have already gone out of style. Itās natural to feel the occasional
strong emotion as you sort through items. Donāt let the emotions
surprise youāand BEE sure to give yourself the gift of self-compassion
and a judgment-free zone as you feel your feelings. This work of purging
what is no longer useful or meaningful to you will give you more room in
your life for clarity and joy!
3 Is This Item Valuable or
Irreplaceable?
Youāve made it to the third key question! As you consider the item you
are focusing on, youāve already determined that it does not make you
happy and you do not use it regularly. The answer to the third key
question will help you figure out how to best deal with this item.
If the item is valuable, you will likely need to take more care in
figuring out how to part with it. In this context, valuable items are
those that either cost a significant amount of money when you originally
purchased itāor are likely worth a significant amount of money now. (You
get to decide what a āsignificant amount of moneyā means to you!)
Sometimes, people hold on to an item for no other reason than because it
is valuable. The third key question in the Power Purge is your reminder
that just because something is valuable doesnāt automatically mean that
it deserves to take up space in your home. If the item is not useful to
you and it doesnāt bring happiness to you, now may be a great time to
sell the item, give it to someone who would love it, or donate it to a
cause that is meaningful to you. Check out your local Facebook āBuy
Nothingā groups, Facebook Marketplace, eBay, and other websites to find
a variety of options for giving your items new life.
The second part of this question asks you to consider whether the item
is irreplaceable. If the answer to this question is YES, but the item
does not make you happy and is not useful to you, all this means is that
you may need to take more care in deciding where it goes after youāve
decided to part with it. Thereās a chance that one-of-a-kind items mean
more to someone else than they do to you, and it might make sense for
you to check with them before disposing of the items.
For example, perhaps you have a crate of Kindergarten art from your
grown child taking up space in your guest room. Itās completely
reasonable to sort through it and keep the ones that make you happy and
then decide that you no longer need the rest. But since the items are
irreplaceable, it might make sense for you to share the contents of the
crate with your adult child so that they can decide if they too want to
keep any of the crayon masterpieces. The same reasoning holds true with
all those photos youāve collected over the years. Give yourself
permission to dispose of pictures that donāt bring you joy, are of poor
quality, or you cannot name the people or places. For large framed
photos, take a picture and let it go! Digitizing photos and photo albums
is a great way to eliminate the actual items.
Remember that just because something is irreplaceable, it doesnāt
automatically mean that it gets to take up space in your home!
Youāve done it! Youāve thoughtfully considered each item in the space
you are decluttering, and youāve (hopefully) given yourself permission
to part with so many of the things that were weighing you down. The
great thing about the Power Purge is that you canāt find a loophole in
the line of questioning. These three questions were designed to press
you and make you be honest with yourself. The more you do it, the better
youāll BEEcome.
Removing all of the extra items will make organizing whatās left go so
much more smoothly. As you work to transform your space, let happiness
and usefulness BEE your guide, and savor the sweet nectar of a
decluttered life!
If you need a helping hand to get started, reach out to the
Bee Organized
location nearest youāour Bees are ready to give you the compassionate,
confidential, and judgment-free service you deserve!